What is male masturbation?
Male masturbation is stimulation of the genitals for the
purpose of advancing sexual arousal. In males, this generally means
stroking the penis by hand to the point of ejaculation, or orgasm.
Masturbation is a very normal practice in boys and men.
Do all males masturbate?
Nearly all males start masturbating between the ages of
12 and 14, although some start before puberty, before they are able to
ejaculate. Half of boys have masturbated to orgasm by their 13th
birthday, and 74 percent have done so by their 14th birthday. By their
15th birthdays, close to 100 percent of males have masturbated to
How do males masturbate?
The usual way for a male to masturbate is to form a
loose fist around his erect penis and stroke in an up and down motion.
This is a basic sexual skill. Masturbating any other way can lead to
sexual difficulties later.
Why do people masturbate?
The main reason is that it's fun. Males also masturbate
to eliminate the sexual fluids they produce that build up from day to
day. There's another reason that you might not have thought of.
Masturbation rids your body of the sperm that have built up, so when
you're finished, the older sperm are gone, and the newest, best ones
are still inside you. So if a man tries to inseminate a woman, he has
a better chance if he's masturbated within a few days than if he
How often do young men masturbate?
In the teen years, the majority of males masturbate at
least once a day. Eight times a week is probably the most common
statistic. It's not uncommon to hear of teenage males, especially
younger ones, masturbating twice a day. Doing it fewer than eight
times a week is OK too. The average male will masturbate well r 1000
times before he ever has sex with a partner.
Where do males masturbate?
Most males masturbate in bed, although many do it at
their computer desks too. The third most popular place is the
bathroom. It's most comfortable to do it in bed, and males who do it
elsewhere almost always learned how to do it in bed.
Can I hurt myself by masturbating?
For most males, masturbation is healthy. There are
three methods of masturbating that should be avoided:
You can hurt yourself if you masturbate in a face-down position.
Masturbation should be performed on your back, although you can do
it sitting or standing once you've learned it on your back.
puts too much pressure on your penis and might cause problems when
you someday try to have sex with a partner. This is a troublesome
condition called Traumatic Masturbatory Syndrome, or
If you masturbate face-down, you need to stop and learn to do it
You can hurt yourself if you stick anything into your urethra
while masturbating (or any other time, for that matter). (The
urethra is the tube in the opening at the end of your penis where
urine and semen come out.)
It's not good to stop the flow of semen when you ejaculate. This
sends the semen into your urinary bladder, and the force you use
to stop the flow can damage the blood vessels and nerves in your
What happens to the semen after a person masturbates?
Most people clean it up with tissue or a piece of
cloth, like a sock or an old shirt. Some guys rub the semen on their
bodies or underwear.
Do adult men masturbate?
Yes. Most men masturbate for the rest of their lives,
whether or not they have sex with partners too.
Do girls masturbate?
Yes, although not as universally or as frequently as
males. Only 50 percent of teenage girls report masturbating, while 75
percent will do so by their 18th birthdays (compared with 100 percent
of males). A much smaller percentage of females masturbate daily
compared to males. Many females who masturbate do so less than once a
month. Although masturbation has been observed in every species of
mammal, there is no species where the females masturbate more often
than the males. There is also no society on earth where the women
masturbate more than the men.
No one has ever told me anything bad about
masturbation. So why do I feel guilty about it?
In the old days, young people were told all sorts of
crazy things about masturbation that weren't true. But just because
those things aren't told anymore, that doesn't mean no one feels
guilty about masturbating. The reason is this: If everyone were happy
and satisfied by masturbating, there would be no reason to mate with
other people and produce offspring. So feeling a little guilty about
masturbation from time to time is normal and perhaps good for the
While you're free of that burden that earlier
generations had to deal with, your generation has a different burden.
In the old days, people used to get married and form families about
the same time their bodies were ready for sex and masturbation.
Today's young people have developed bodies earlier than ever before,
and at the same time, they have to postpone marriage and families
later than ever before. This means masturbation is more useful both
earlier and for a longer time than ever before.
What are wet dreams?
Wet dreams, which are correctly called nocturnal
emissions, are orgasms that some males experience during sleep. The
dreams that bring them on may or may not be sexual in nature. They
reflect not sexual desire but the body's need to eliminate sexual
fluids like semen and prostate fluid. Only about half of males ever
have wet dreams. Most males start masturbating before they can ever
have one. And very few of those who have them continue having them
after they learn to masturbate. Don't worry if you never have one or
if you stop having them when you masturbate.
How often do wet dreams occur?
The small fraction of the male population --
overwhelmingly 12 to 15 years old -- who have them regularly have one
about every 10 days.
How can I masturbate if I've never done it before?
When you get an erection, try to figure out if there's
something you thought about or saw that brought it on. Then think
about that while you lie on your back and stroke your penis as
described above. While masturbating, most young males think about
girls that they like, and they imagine kissing them or seeing them
What can I do if I have more questions?
father, older brother or other older male relatives are the best
resources. Asking an older male friend whom you trust might
also be good. Other adult males, like doctors, teachers, clergy, and
counselors might have good information, but they're likely to be less
frank than your dad or older brother will be. It's probably not a good
idea to trust someone your own age to answer your questions about